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How Do I Explore the Bi Side of Myself/Let Him Explore the Bi Side of Himself?

Wed, 05/09/2018 - 07:42
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I am a 27 year old biquestioning woman who is dating a wonderful 22 year old bi Man. Previously for him, all of his relationships have been with other gay men, and he has presented to most people as a gay man. When he started dating me, it was the first "cishet" relationship he'd ever had, but we've made it work through lots of communication and we both feel quite strongly towards each other.

Recently he asked me about potentially starting an open relationship, as he said that there were "aspects of the gay world [he] wants to explore." Additionally, he knows that I am questioning my bi status and how that works with my commitment to him, and is almost encouraging me to explore that as well, within our relationship.

Is a Man Who Sweats During Sex a Turn Off?

Thu, 04/26/2018 - 06:44
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I have a question about sweating. More precisely a question of whether a man that sweats a lot is a turn off for women. I'm not talking about sweating in activities that you're expected to sweat, like working out or sitting in a sauna or hot tub.

No, I'm talking about sweating more than usual doing everyday moderate activity, like dancing or just sitting in the sun. I ask because I've always been a person that sweats more than most people -- sometimes a lot more. To the point that people have made a comment about it or have been surprised by how much I sweat. As a result it has made me extremely self concious about it and slightly embarrassed. It makes me feel like a bit of a freak.

Had a Labial Cyst Removed. Will My Vulva Be Normal Again?

Sun, 03/25/2018 - 08:45
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

I've recently had surgery to remove a labial cyst (2nd time, first time was unsuccessful) I'm worried about the healing.. My physician opted to remove the cyst and the wall surrounding - which has ended up being the back third around my vaginal entrance..

Apart from it looking a tad strange due to quite a large chunk being missing I'm worried about how it's healing.. I got an infection and a course of antibiotics to combat this which has cleared it up but I looked in a mirror today and where part of the incision was made it doesn't seem to have healed correctly.

Her Clit Cannot Be Touched

Tue, 03/13/2018 - 15:31
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

My wife has given me a mission - to find out of there is a solution to her problem: her skin is super sensitive to touch (anywhere on her body), to heat (her skin literally bubbles), and to cold (breaks out in rash).

Our sexual dilemma is this: her clit cannot be touched, either by me, or by herself. She said touching it is like sticking your finger in an electric socket. She also cannot be fingered, nor can she have dildos or vibrators inserted. No latex condoms. She once tried a Brazilian wax, and swelled up for days (she had to go to her doctor).

Feel Like My Clitoris is Getting Smaller

Fri, 03/02/2018 - 14:06
Submitted by Betty Dodson


I am 42 and have noticed that for a little over a year now, it feels as though my clitoris is shrinking. I have a long history of yeast infections and one or two cases of Bacterial Vaginosis, so I tried using Vagisil for a few months. This is around the time that I noticed the weird sensation of my clitoris getting smaller. I am able to masterbate using a vibrator and lube, but I do notice a bit of a 'zinging' sensation afterwards.

Aside from that, my biggest complaint is that I have a hard time keeping the clitoral hood clean. When I try to pull it back to gently wash, the labia feels very uncomfortable and the clitoris is so tender that it's almost painful to try.

Post-Abuse My Vagina is Chronically Tight & Dry

Tue, 02/13/2018 - 08:45
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

As a child and early teen I experienced sexual force by an adult repeatedly. I would squeeze my vagina very tight to prevent penetration. It only angered the adult and ultimately did not prevent him.

As a result when I finally had sex with my someone in my age group as a young adult I cried. Many years later with grown children and I'm menopausal now I find if I am not active my vagina closes up. I have a partner now and after a long time of celibacy he re-opened me and it was very painful.

How Can I Manage My Jealousy?

Fri, 02/02/2018 - 09:09
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

First, thank you very much for sharing your wisdom with us. It's been a live changing for me since I discover I had "small" orgasms and kept developing them.

Now I got a question about something that is killing my loving relationships. I have this horrible tendency to get "over jealous" when I think my partners are fantasising with someone else. Once my partner told me he finds "wonder woman" hot before going to see the movie. I got so "jealous" on thinking he is fantasising having sex with her (instead of me) so I didn’t want to watch the movie.

I Feel Pleasure Waves But No Orgasm

Thu, 01/25/2018 - 07:42
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello dr. Betty,

So first I will explain a little bit of my background story to help you understand my situation better. I am 27 years old, and I’ve been with my only boyfriend (very recently my now husband) since we were both 17. We decided to wait until marriage to have intercourse...we grew up with christian beliefs and I have a very strong mother. I believed it was the best thing to do so we married virgins.

I Get Aroused Without Touching My Genitals Due to PGAD

Fri, 01/05/2018 - 15:31
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

Have you heard of a condition called PGAD (persistant genital arousal disorder)? I am in physical therapy for this and I feel like a freak.

I do not know anyone nor have i ever heard of anyone afflicted with this. However, the one good thing I have gained from having this is the relationship i needed to form with myself. I know every part of myself so well. I know all my pleasure spots and have to spend extra time with myself. I was diagnosed with this about five years ago and I have since learned to accept it but the shame is still there because most of the time I am the only one doctors have ever met and some doctors just think im a nymphomaniac.

Deep Penetration Hurts After First Child

Wed, 12/20/2017 - 13:51
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty,

I am a in my early 30's and have very little interest in sex. My husband is a sex addict and we are always butting heads.

Sex is great when we have time but I still have issues. Most of the concern is deep penetration. It hurts like hell and it really stops me from focusing on my orgasm. It feels like a very strong pinch.

This has been going on since I had my first child. I was fine before then. Can you please help me figure this out?


Dear I,

When some aspect of penetration sex is painful, don't do it. Instead give him a blow job or manual sex instead.

Deep penetration that hurts means you are doing something wrong. Until you figure this out, do oral or manual.