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The Next Bodysex Workshops

Sat, 03/18/2017 - 09:14
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Taking a bodysex workshop is transformative.  We focus on overcoming negative body image and pleasure anxiety. 

Yes, they're done in the nude but it's not sexual.  Betty developed these workshops using the consciousness raising model of second wave feminism where women got together and shared their experience first person. You can read about past workshops to better understand the experience here (scroll down to read blog posts written by Carlin and our Bodysex leaders).

Whatever your race, orientation, upbringing, or country of origin, we have wounds to heal. All are welcome.

The next workshops will be held Spring 2017 on these dates:

Bodysex Certification

Thu, 11/17/2016 - 15:00
Submitted by Carlin Ross

If you have any questions or would like to start the certification process, send an email to admin@dodsonandross.com

Mission:

Our goal is to certify women to hold their own Bodysex workshops so that the Betty Dodson method of self-love and sisterhood continues and expands to every country around the world.

When Betty and I first got together, we had this vision of a world map with red lights being illuminated every time someone clicked on D&R. Now we feel that those red lights represent women certified in the Betty Dodson method as each woman holds her own Bodysex workshops.

Our Latest Ebook & Vulva Anatomy

Wed, 02/13/2013 - 17:22
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I'm really focused on ebooks right now because it's the easiest way for us to get our information out globally and keep the lights on.  Betty's memoir My Romantic Love Wars is out as an ebook and we're releasing several how-to sex ebooks including my first writing venture

The Range of Vulva Styles

Mon, 09/24/2012 - 13:43
Submitted by Carlin Ross
Classical Vulva
Gothic Vulva
Modern Vulva
Renaissance Vulva
Baroque Vulva
The Heart Vulva

Betty sketched these vulvas for the release of her international best seller Sex for One.

Back in the 70's, during the Genital Show & Tell ritual in her Bodysex workshops, Betty started identifying the "style" of each vulva using architectural styles as a reference.  Here they are: Classical, Gothic, Modern, Renaissance, Baroque, and the Heart.

Scarleteen and Planned Parenthood have reproduced these images for their educational content.  Knowing that there is a range of vulva types has healed millions of women and men. 

Awakening the Clitoris

Thu, 12/29/2011 - 12:52
Submitted by Betty Dodson

After hearing countless sex histories from girls and women over the past four decades, I believe sexual repression begins the moment a parent or caregiver punishes a child’s natural curiosity for touching their own sex organs.

Society needs to understand that the health of each person’s sexlife rests upon childhood masturbation— the foundation upon which all of human sexuality is based. It’s very consistent that each client I see struggling with orgasms as an adult has no memory of masturbating in childhood or in their teens. The absence of this natural self-exploration interferes with the development of nerve pathways that carry positive sensations from our genitals to the pleasure center in the brain. This blocks or slows down the development of sexual release with orgasm.

How Are We Really Having Sex?

Fri, 10/08/2010 - 09:42
Submitted by Betty and Carlin

Indiana University released their national sex survey - we had to review their findings. It seems that the clitoris still reigns supreme.

Learn a New Orgasm: How to Upgrade Your Masturbation Technique

Sun, 05/16/2010 - 17:38
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Over the years, one frequently asked question comes from women and a few men who are unable to incorporate their current method of masturbation into partnersex.

Many have carried the same pattern of childhood masturbation over into adulthood and it's now the only way they can get off. Some are stimulating their genitals with one or both hands pressed between legs that are tightly squeezed together while lying face down on their tummies- not conducive to sharing orgasms with another person. Others are humping folded blankets, wooden floors, riding the arm of an overstuffed chair or pressing against hard counter tops.

My Orgasms Were Real But Was My Story?

Thu, 06/22/2017 - 07:45
Submitted by Anonymous
original painting Betty Dodson

I read your recent posts about transformation, a new chapter for you both and it resonated with me. I had been reflecting on the past 6 months since attending body sex and I would like to share my thoughts with you.

When I came back from New York not only was I exhausted, I was really confused. The experience was layered with contradicting experiences. I was elated to have met one of my greatest inspirations and to have shared orgasms with an amazing group of women but I had a big question looming about how honest I was.

I questioned myself for several weeks about my authenticity. My orgasms were real but was my story?

Amber Rose's Bush Shot is Feminism

Fri, 06/16/2017 - 08:29
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Amber Rose posted this full bush shot to her instagram account in support of her branded Slut Walk.  Of course, instagram removed it and I really had to dig to find an unpixelated copy.

I'm not sure why breasts aren't obscene but bush is - you can't even see anything.  "White" feminists called her out for displaying nudity and undermining the cause.  For the record, I'm white and a feminist and I fucing love Amber's bush shot.

From Nun to Bodysex Leader

Thu, 06/15/2017 - 13:10
Submitted by Laurie Joy

There is NOTHING more beautiful, healing and exhilarating than a Bodysex Workshop.

I facilitated my first one today, a baby step that was a Quantum Leap for me personally and for Puritanical New England. Almost a year ago this 64 year old former nun, with life-long “pleasure anxiety” attended a Bodysex Workshop in NYC with Betty Dodson.

It Feels Like I Need to Pee All the Time

Tue, 06/13/2017 - 08:24
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I'm hoping you would give me some insights to what's going on. I'm a girl, 21 years, healthy, non sexually active .Almost 2 months ago, I masturbated like once per night for like 5 days to reach an orgasm and it helps me sleep. Is that considered to be over doing it. I kinda just use my fingers to create a vibration and that's it. My real question is that after the 5 days I stopped doing it and I having this feeling like I need to pee all the time!

Megan Jayne Crabbe Found Beauty in the Softness

Tue, 06/13/2017 - 07:47
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I stumbled across Megan Jayne Crabbe's instagram page Body Positive Power and I fell in love.

Above are two pictures of Megan - a before and after her battle with anorexia.  Her message: you can love the body you have now and fuck our diet culture.  She posts pictures and amazing dancing-in-her-panties videos with her giggling rolls of softness:

After doing about 40 Bodysex workshops, I can say that I appreciate all body types.  There's beauty in every dimple, scar, and softness is very appealing (just as much as taut muscle).

Betty's Group Sex Interview in NY Times 1971

Sun, 06/11/2017 - 14:08
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Thank you, John, for sending me the link to Group Sex: Is it 'Life Art' or A Sign Something is Wrong.  This article ran in 1971 at the onset of the Sexual Revolution.  Betty is interviewed and quoted.  Here are some of my favorite Bettyisms:

When I got divorced in 1965, I decided to find out everything I could about sexuality,” she said. “I set about letting go of jealousy and possessive feelings, and understanding I could love more than one person. It was the most important thing I ever did.”

19 Years Old - Will Kegels Better My Sex Life?

Sat, 06/10/2017 - 07:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am a 19 year old interested in doing kegels to better my sex life with myself and a partner in the future.

I'd love to get strong results, and getting a kegel exerciser seems the way to go, except after my research there are several sights and people claiming that it is actually a bad way to go -both unnecessary and not as healthy as doing kegels without it.

What do you say to this?

Dear S,

What I say is "to each her own." Chances are you do not need to get your PC muscles stronger. Actually Kegels were designed for women who had given childbirth and needed to restore the muscles. I simply find using the pelvic floor muscles during penetration while including a vibrator on my clitoris enhances my orgasm.