How Do I Practice First Time Penetration?

Sat, 11/05/2011 - 09:50
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dearest Betty,

I have been reading all the posts in the subject "first time penetration" in your site, the reason is that I only do clitoris stimulation in masturbation, I know it is very important penetration but I feel uncomfortable and almost any pleasure, so I read and read, I feel very relieved because many women are in the same situation, as you said we have to practice, but it is difficult especially if I don't have any good dildo and I don't dare to buy one, what do you think? please I need your advice again, I really want to feel good when penetration.

Thanks a lot, hope you are in good health.

Best regards.

Dear P,

You can easily make a dildo from a veggie like a carrot, cucumber or zucchini. My first home-make dildo was carved from a white column candle. Also apply plenty of lubricant like coconut oil. You can read about the pelvic floor muscle under Betty's Vaginal Barbell.

Be sure to get in touch with this muscle. Before beginning vaginal penetration, give yourself 15 minutes (at least) of clitoral stimulation. Just don't expect to get an orgasm from putting something inside your vagina. The clitoris remains our primary organ of pleasure for orgasms. It's not essential to do penetration as long as you are enjoying clitoral orgasms.


Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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I am 32 year old got married

Tue, 06/21/2016 - 13:30
Abhijeet (not verified)

I am 32 year old got married 20 months ago, my wife is 28 years old. We have been doing intercourse on regular basis however we identified I am not entering her vagina. I am not able to identify the same while intercourse. How do we solve this as my wife has lot of fear as to how will my penis enter her vagina. How can we successfully complete our intercourse and overcome her fear and ensure I enter her vagina every time we intercourse..Please tell. 

Unless you are wanting to impregnate your wife,

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Wed, 06/22/2016 - 14:08
Betty Dodson

you do not need to enter her vagiana everytime you have sex. She needs to take control of her penetration by getting a stand alone mirror, a good light source and coconut oil for lubrication. Using a zuchinni carved down and covered with oil, she can slowly penetrate herself which is best as she can stop and start according to her response. Otherwise, she would have to see a pelvic floor specialist to work with her.

Dr. Betty