How Do I Move From Sexual Abuse to Sexual Relationship?

Sat, 03/24/2012 - 08:54
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty!
Well, I would consider myself a very sexual person. I like it and I want to experience everything I can. I have one problem though. I was raped from the ages of 2 to 6 and again by someone else at age 8. It hasn't "ruined me" technically, but I feel like that sometimes. Now I'm an adult, 19 years old, and I want to connect sexually with others. I desperately do. I just can't seem to. When I try that, I go somewhere else in my head. What do you suggest I do? Wait until I find someone I can completely trust? I enjoy phone sex and masturbation but any further than that and my mind leaves me hanging. Help.

Dear T,

The woman I like in the field of healing sexual abuse is Staci Haines. She has a book and videos available and an online presence with the School for Erotic touch. The following was excerpted from the New School for Erotic Touch.

Healing Sexual Trauma with Staci Haines

"This video training in Healing Sexual Abuse was not created just for survivors of sexual abuse. Psychotherapists, sex coaches, tantra teachers, and somatic practitioners of all sorts and their clients will benefit from Staci Haines' body-based practices for healing."

"One in three girls and one in six boys are sexually abused before age eighteen. Although many sexually abused boys and girls do not live as victims, they can appear healthy and still carry wounds from the abuse. In this Healing Sexual Trauma class, Staci Haines offers a series of somatic practices that over time can change how we experience past sexual trauma. Some of the healing practices are solo. Some involve work with one’s partner. Some of the practices are done with guidance and touch from a trauma professional. All of the practices involve awareness of the body, especially awareness of our breathing."

You have a great attitude and conscious masturbation will be central to your healing.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time