As Soon as He Starts Touching Me I Start Panicking

Sat, 07/28/2012 - 11:02
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty,

I'm a twenty-two year old woman and I have a problem and I was hoping you could push me in the right direction.

I've always had a fairly sexual mind. I know what I like, what sort of things get me off, and so on. I don't have any problem penetrating myself or bringing myself to an orgasm. But I've noticed a different problem that I can't seem to fix by myself.

I get to talking with a man and we hit it off, but no matter how much I like him as soon as he starts touching me I start panicking. I feel like I'm not safe, like I'm being violated. It makes no sense to me and I feel like I'm broken. Help.

Dear K,

Since you have no physical problems enjoying sex with yourself, your response to being touched by a man is most likely psychological. Perhaps this is the result of some childhood sex trauma with some kind of inappropriate sex with a family member or some older person buried in your memory.

This would be a case of seeing a good therapist who deals with these issues. I know there are several good books that talk about incest or some kind of inappropriate sex between a child and an adult but I do not remember their titles. One that was written a while ago was called The Courage to Heal and became popular. Meanwhile continue to enjoy your orgasms alone to keep your sex energy moving.

Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time