My Clitoris is Shrinking

Fri, 05/29/2015 - 06:37
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

Hi I'm 48 years old and when I was 46 I noticed that my clitoris has been shrinking and the skin has started to become lose around the hood , it is not as big as it once was and also when I gave birth my baby ripped the skin there. My GYN says I have Lichen Scholerosus (sp)

I don't have itching or discoloration or any of the other symptoms I'm just losing my clitoris. I can still organism but I'm wondering if it's due to to much masterbating with a vibrator? What can I do? Is really small almost nonexistent.

Thank you A

Dear A,

As we age, everything becomes different and that includes our genitals. Yes skin get stretched and we change all over, but instead of focusing on what your vulva once looked like, just pay attention to what you can feel. If anything, the vibrator is bringing a fresh supply of blood to any area we are vibrating. That''s a good thing for all of our body parts.

Just recently, I had a client who was also diagnosed with Lichen. Her vulva was perfectly healthy. No discoloration and no itching. I believe her GYN didn't know how to answer her clitoris question and the knee jerk response is to settle on some disease so they can prescribe a medication. It's truly sad that our medical professionals get no training in sexology or sexual pleasure and health. It's a serious problem because then Big Pharma steps in and makes obscene amounts of money from doctors ignorance about sex that write out a script for some useless medication. Be your own doctor. After all, no one knows your body better than you do.

Happy O's
Dr. Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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Still orgasmic

Sat, 05/30/2015 - 04:52


Has your doctor actually tested for Lichen Scholerosus (sp)ie. taken a sample and had it confirmed through microscope? They would normally also test your blood to make sure your thyroid is working properly. Has s/he suggested a course of treatment such as steroidal creams and recommended changes to your bath routine (less bubble bath, washing with clean water etc)?

It seems unreasonable to have suggested a diagnosis without any of this further comment or direction and I would definitely push them further if only to determine whether you need to change to a more competent doctor but also perhaps to determine how best to live with the condition.

Betty's comments about our changing bodies are well-made and sensible. One of the problems in living in a world so afraid of sex and sexuality, maybe especially women's sex and sexuality, is that we never get to exchange information and learn about the changes our bodies go through as we age - every woman is left to discover for herself that lubrication reduces, hair disappears, linings thin, vulvas loosen or tighten, kegels really were important...

Maybe there is nothing more going on other than "normal" ageing though this can be difficult enough for all of us. I agree entirely with a friend who once told me ageing was not for wimps.

Even if there is a condition to be managed, my understanding is that orgasms remain unchanged with Lichen Scholerosus (sp) and are an obvious way to keep your mind and body more content. As long as you are still orgasmic, your clitoris is still there and still doing what it was made to do - giving you pleasure - even if it has become a bit more shy. Good luck!

How I got my clitoris back

Fri, 10/14/2016 - 11:14
FaithInMe (not verified)

I'm now almost 47 and had similar situation to you very soon after I had surgically-induced menopause after a complete hysterectomy and BSO for a cancer-related condition when I was 39. My GYN diagnosed my virtually non-existant clit as clitoral atrophy and prescribed topical compounded testosterone. It was the magic bullet! And I was so thankful I can't even tell you. I know that not everyone wants to use hormones, but for me at 39 it was a godsend.

I still have to use the testosterone, and not doing so dramatically impacts my ability to orgasm. I don't have orgasms as strongly as I used to before the surgery or get as wet, but I'm thankful for the amazing experiences I do have.

The other thing was that not only was my clitoris disappearing, but I lost nearly all sensation in so many other parts of my body, including my nipples, which are a huge part of arousal for me. The testosterone returned that as well. Very grateful.
Hope this is helpful. :)