hypersensitive clitoris

Her Clit Cannot Be Touched

Tue, 03/13/2018 - 15:31
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

My wife has given me a mission - to find out of there is a solution to her problem: her skin is super sensitive to touch (anywhere on her body), to heat (her skin literally bubbles), and to cold (breaks out in rash).

Our sexual dilemma is this: her clit cannot be touched, either by me, or by herself. She said touching it is like sticking your finger in an electric socket. She also cannot be fingered, nor can she have dildos or vibrators inserted. No latex condoms. She once tried a Brazilian wax, and swelled up for days (she had to go to her doctor).

Why Don't I Enjoy Clitoral Stimulation?

Thu, 08/04/2011 - 09:28
Submitted by Betty Dodson

First off, THANK you for living and breathing! This site has helped me realize that I am not alone in wanting to explore and own my sexuality as a woman!

The first and most important question I have is as follows:

I can only cum by stimulating the areas around my clitoris. I've tried stimulating it before, but any kind of pressure feels tender and hurts. Likewise, I find that after I cum (when using a vibrator) I have to quickly remove it or it hurts almost immediately. What is going on?!

Dear L,

So happy you are on board with D&R. The clitoris has some 8000 nerve endings and is VERY sensitive as you have discovered. Right after we come, most clits need to take a breather and calm down a bit. However, she is often ready to go again within a few moments, say a minute or two.

Having Pain During Penetration

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Tue, 06/16/2009 - 11:59
Submitted by Betty Dodson

HI there!!!

I dont know what's been happening but I've starting touching myself at odd times. I find myself coming to a peek very soon. It seems there is little sensation- from what there used to be- i kinda feel nothing, and dont respond for a good five minutes, then all of a sudden, it becomes "too much".

Betty: You are describing a Tension Orgasm that I described in "Orgasms for Two." Coming to a peak very soon or too soon can be controlled by you. Lighten up on your clit stim. Five minutes of harsh clit stim creates a kind of numbness and yes, "all of a sudden, it becomes too much!" That's when your clit rebelled and signaled "Too Much!"

Since Anti-depresssants Orgasms Aren't the Same

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Wed, 06/10/2009 - 09:20
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I am a healthy 28-year-old female, and I have been suffering from an undiagnosed sexual dysfunction for about six or seven years now. I began a very satisfying masturbation career at the age of about 18. My clitoris was too sensitive, and I've always preferred to stimulate my labia. Sometime in my early twenties, I'd found that I'd lost most of the sensation in my labia, and that persisted until a couple of months ago, when a small amount returned.

17...Sexually Active...No Orgasm

Tue, 04/28/2009 - 11:15
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Hi Betty,

I'm 17 years old and have been with 5 different boys, and never had an orgasm. Some of them I was only with once, the one I'm with now is my boyfriend and we are quite sexually active. Well, he has a little problem of being done in less then five minutes which is annoying, but thats not what I need your advice about. It's my problem. I have been having sex for about a year, and I have masturbated. I never really have gotten anything out of the sex besides it feels somewhat good. When I masturbate, maybe I don't do it for very long, but I don't really get any pleasure except from my clit.

Is It Normal to Be Sensitive After an Orgasm?

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Tue, 02/24/2009 - 16:52
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

We are a happy portuguese couple and we enjoy to give pleasure to each other. Recently we saw on portuguese TV, a documentary called "Masturbation for girls". The thing is, every time that i do oral sex and stimulate her, she enjoys it very much, achieving her orgasm very quickly, but after it, her vulva gets so sensitive that even the lightest touch can make her feel pain. And she needs to rest 15 to 30 minutes before we can continue to enjoy each other. We want to improve our sex lives and i want to be able to give her even more pleasure.